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  • Reporting

    It is up to you to decide if you want to tell the police about what happened to you. Victim Support Isle of Man can help you even if you do not report the crime to the police. If you do decide to report the crime, we will support you through the process.

    If you report a crime, you may be asked to make a statement to the police which will be recorded on video.  This is called an Achieving Best Evidence interview (ABE).  This is where you get the chance to tell them about what happened to you in your own words.  You can also tell them anything you know or remember about the person who committed the crime.  If you want, an adult you trust should be able to stay with you while you do this.  It is important that you tell the police as many details as you can remember.  If you don’t know something, or can’t remember, it’s OK to say that.

    After giving a statement, you should receive a crime number which you can use to check the progress of your case.  The police will tell you if there is to be an investigation, whether they have caught someone in connection with the crime, and whether there will be a court case.

    If you go to court, the Witness Service can support you.

    For non-emergency call 631212

    You can report a crime to the police on the non-emergency number 631212

    In danger? Call 999

    If the crime is ongoing, or you are in immediate danger, please call 999

    Need Support?

    You can contact Childline anonymously here https://www.childline.org.uk/

    Report via Crimestoppers

    You can also report a crime anonymously via Crimestoppers’ U-18 website www.fearless.org

  • Consent

    If you are aged between 13-15 years old, we would like to support you with your parent’s permission and involvement. If you feel very strongly that you do not want them to know you are receiving support, we can help you without their permission. However, we will usually send them a letter to let them know that you are getting support. We will not tell them what the issue is.

    If you are 16 or 17 years old, you will be able to receive support from us independently of your parents. However, we would always encourage you to inform and involve them, as they can be a great source of support. The only time we would not support you without your parent’s permission is if our trained staff and volunteers feel you are not able to make decisions and understand what is happening in the same way as others your age.

  • Parent Information

    As a parent, you might be shocked and upset that a crime has happened to your child, especially if they did not talk to you about what was happening.

    It is important that you talk to someone about how you are feeling and get support from organisations and agencies involved in your child’s life – their school, your church, GP, your family and friends.  Victim Support Isle of Man can also provide emotional support and practical help to get you through this difficult time.

    If your child must give a statement to the police about the crime, you may be allowed to stay with your child while they do so. However, this is not always the case. Your child should be allowed to have another adult they trust with them at these interviews.

  • Toolbox/Resources

    Grounding Techniques

    Grounding Techniques are methods of coping with stress or anxiety by ‘grounding’ you in your environment and making you focus on something other than the thing which is causing you stress.

    Some easy things you can do if you feel yourself panicking or losing control are:

    Senses Countdown:

    Look around the room and identify:
    5 things you can see
    4 things you can touch
    3 things you can hear
    2 things you can smell
    1 thing you can taste

     

    List things you know to be true:
    My name is …………
    I live in ……….
    I go to ………….. school
    My eyes are ……….
    My hair is ………….
    Today is …………..
    The month is …………..
    The year is …………..
    (This will help you to re-orient yourself and ground yourself in the moment.)

     

    Category lists: 
    This of a category like ‘colours’ or ‘animals’ and list off as many things within that category as you can think of.

     

    Stand & Stomp

    Stand up and feel how your body centres itself and holds itself up.  Imagine a golden thread holding up your head and pull yourself up straight.  Roll your shoulders back and correct your posture.  Be aware of how simply standing still feels.  Concentrate on your breathing, breathing in and out slowly and deeply.  Feel how your feet connect with the ground.  If you need to, stomp your feet one by one, feeling how the impact of your foot on the floor makes you feel.  Breathe in and out slowly.

    Click here to find some mindfulness colouring sheets

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